The Promise

Last month I renewed my guide promise at a Thinking Day celebration day hosted by the Trefoil guild unit I had recently joined. What is the Trefoil guild I hear you ask?

Well, before I explain I thought I would fill you in on how I came to joining this part of the guiding association. As did many a young girl in the UK I became a brownie 50 years ago at the age of 7, guide at 10 and a ranger at 14. I didn’t last long in the rangers and left to join the venture scouts, but that is a different story. As a guide I helped out at my mum’s brownie guide unit and continued as a young leader while I batted for the other side as a venture scout. It’s a well known fact that daughters of guiders usually get drawn into leading units and I was no exception. I became a unit leader at 18, completed my adult leadership qualification and became Tawny owl, mum’s second in command in the 47th Bristol brownie unit. The guide association decided to create another section for 5 to 7 year olds, Rainbows. So in 1991 I set up the first rainbow unit in my area and became the guider in charge, while continuing to help at the brownie unit. Eventually I took over the reins of Brown owl from my mum and she took over the rainbows, a smaller and more manageable group.

Unfortunately, like many groups, our units didn’t survive the covid pandemic. Due to varying reasons, once restrictions were lifted, my merry band of guiders and helpers were unable to continue support me with running the units and my mum was in her 80’s and not able to commit to attending every week. Also I had started a masters in advanced nursing and couldn’t find enough spare time. So with great sadness the units folded.

Being part of guiding is like being in the mafia, you can’t leave, you know too much. So what happens to a guider who hangs up her neckerchief? This is where the Trefoil guild comes into it, or the old biddy guiders as I used to lovingly call them when my mum first joined. Of course now I’m a member I don’t call them that anymore.

As early as 1920 ex guides formed unofficial groups to maintain contact with their old guide companies and in 1935 the “old guides” organisation was formed, so my “old Biddy” name wasn’t far off the mark! The name Trefoil guild was adopted and became a self governing and self financing body from 1952 as a group for former guiders in the UK and overseas territories.

So what does the Trefoil guild do? far from being for old biddy guiders the organisation is open for anyone over the age of 18, for women and men. The 4 main aims of the guild are find friendship, give support, get involved and get active. Groups tend to meet once a month and get involved in various activities at these meetings. Members can be called upon to support units at meetings or days out to help with activities and keeping the girls safe. Mostly it’s an organisation where members can enjoy personal and social opportunities based on guiding and scouting principles without the added stress and commitment of running units.

As I’m still working full time I haven’t been to many meetings, so far my Trefoil experiences include eating! a cream tea, a post Christmas lunch out and a ploughman’s lunch at the afore mentioned Thinking day celebration. This day on 22nd February is celebrated by the guiding sisterhood throughout the world. The guiding family renews their promise on this day and this year by renewing my promise I became an official member of my Trefoil group. Although I did actually fluff up the promise by saying that I would serve the Queen instead of the King, you can hardly blame me, it’s what I’ve been saying for nearly 50 years!

All for a good cause

Following the success of my previous medical volunteering adventures at the Glasgow Commonwealth Games and the London World Athletics Championships, I decided to give it another go. I was very fortunate to have been selected as a first responder team leader for the Birmingham Commonwealth Games in 2022.

My base for the games was Birmingham University campus as spectator medical cover for squash, not my first choice for sport but we also covered the hockey at times and were able to see the England women’s team win gold. But for me that’s not what it’s all about, as usual I worked with an amazing team and made lots of new friends.

What was great this time, being only 2 hours from home I had visits from two best friends. Jane got a ticket for the gymnastics, I met her after my shift and we had a bit of food together and a catch up before she got her train back to Bristol. And after holidaying up in the north, George stopped off at Birmingham with her family to check out Ozzy the bull and all the other festivities. I met up with them before one of my shifts for a wander around and a bit of people watching. It was lovely to see them and share my commonwealth experience with them.

This time I also managed to get tickets to watch the gymnastics on two days, the ladies all around finals and day two of the apparatus finals. I’m a massive fan of gymnastics and this is the first time I’d actually watched it live. The atmosphere was amazing and the gymnasts were fantastic, it was definitely money very well spent.

I can’t recommend this type of volunteering enough. It’s a fabulous way to make friends, experience international sporting events for free and you get to keep all the kit!

Thank you for being a friend

Friendship is very important to me and I’m very lucky to have core groups of fabulous friends. And what is better than fabulous friends? ….. Weekends away with those friends!!

In the past year I have been fortunate enough to partake in quite a few jollies with my gals.

The BMT drinking club is made up of 6 paediatric oncology/haematology nurses who became friends in the 90’s, working on the bone marrow transplant unit in Bristol Children’s Hospital. We had our annual weekend jaunt to New Quay in beautiful West Wales. We are lucky to have the use of a fabulous house overlooking the sea. I always feel both energised and rested by these weekends. We spent quality time walking, chatting and laughing so much, especially when playing Cards against humanity!

The Class of 83 are a group of friends who met at senior school at the age of 11. Our friendship group became stronger following a school reunion a few years ago and we have tried to meet up regularly ever since. We discovered a lovely cottage in Draycott, near Cheddar in Somerset in November last year and decided to return again in May. Whenever we get together we all laugh so much and this was especially so on our second visit to the cottage when we found the dressing up box! Very clearly provided for the children but that didn’t stop us trying to squeeze into the outfits and making it work!

The New year new challenge club is made up of 3 adrenaline junkies, well actually just me and 2 friends that get dragged along to stuff that terrifies them, like zip wiring! We are the 3 amigos namely Arrr Carole, Arrr Debb and Arrr Selena who met working in the paediatric oncology/haematology research team. When we are not doing death defying challenges, we go on weekends away. This year we took ourselves off to Liverpool to do all things Beatles, Cilla and Liver birds!

A weekend away in the Big Smoke was in order for 2 fabulous friends, Bev and Deb, who turned 60 this year. From our temporary home on Bankside, on the first night we had cocktails in the Shard with most amazing views. Then the following day, dressed in our 70’s chick best we headed to the O2 for the Mamma Mia party night. It was a fabulous weekend in old London town filled with laughs, dancing and singing all things Abba.

Last but definitely not least, not really a weekend away, but a lovely night’s stay in our own city of Bristol. My bestest bestie Jane and I went to see an outside performance of Much ado about nothing at the Orangery at Godley Hall in Hotwells. It is a very special place for Jane and her family as her daughter got married there a couple of years ago and we met up there with the happy couple, Holly and Jonny, to watch the play. As copious amounts of fizz was consumed we needed a hotel room in walking distance to stagger to, but we were bright eyed and bushy tailed the morning after for a spot of breakfast and a really good catch up and laughing till we cried session at the Clifton Lido.

Time with treasured friends is never wasted time, to maintain friendship takes effort and mutual respect, and should never be taken for granted. I value every minute I spend with all my close friends and really hope those relationships continue for many years to come.

Girl power

I was reading my “Woman and Home” magazine today and there was an article on the importance of friendships for women.

I’m lucky to have many friends, women and men, that I have met through the different areas of my life such as; nursing, guiding, bringing up my boys, travelling, exercise classes etc. But I’m even luckier to have a core group of girl friends who have all, in their special way, been an invaluable support especially over the last few years.

I feel I need to name them all as if I’m making an Oscar acceptance speech because they could be reading this post, well at least I hope they are!

My good friends from work are Jane.B, George and Kate, when we are able we meet up on Fridays to have coffee, catch up on gossip and have a mooch around the shops. They also keep me updated with the news from the unit, which is essential to me now as I will be working there on the Return to nurse practice course.

Living next door is my lovely neighbour and friend Debbie, she is always around for good company and she is also my companion and support at fat club.

My friend Bev has her own health problems that are similar to mine and a very lively grand daughter to run around after, but she always makes time for coffee shop meetings to listen and chat.

Married to my brother, Sharon is fabulous, I consider her a friend and a sister and she lets me kidnap my lovely little nieces very often.

My best and oldest friend is Jane or BB as I affectionately call her, (long and complicated story to the name), we have known each other for about 30 years. We first met through scouting and although initially we didn’t spend a lot of time together, when we started having our children we became inseparable. We have shared many good times and plenty of bad times together. We have been ill for about the same amount of time and both seem to be recovering at he same time too, so we are supporting each other trying to get our lives back on track. Jane is going through her own personal problems at the moment, but we always seem to have a good time and often laugh until we cry.

A good friend listens, doesn’t judge, gives advice if needed, says nothing if that is best, tells the truth even if it might hurt, will give support unconditionally and tell you if your bum looks too big in that skirt!

I know my recovery wouldn’t have happened so well if it wasn’t for my special group of friends and I wouldn’t be without them.